Will the judge penalize me for not giving dad additional time?

Q: My kids father and I are have a custody case. As of now there is no custody order in place. For the past 1 1/2 we have shared visitation with challenges. He has the kids Tues 7am-Fri 5pm and I have Fri-5pm-Tue 7am. Lately he has been asking for more time with the kids because he states it is not an exact 50/50 split. However it is because of child support, residential custody and taxes. He works from home. The kids are with him all day as they go to school remotely and I work. He has been offering the kid things if they stay an extra night. He has asked me for the kids to stay Mondays and I have said no but offered to allow the children to stay and extra 2 hours on Fridays but he does not want it. He has threaten to bring this up in court stating I am not flexible or listening to the kids desires. I cherish the time I have with our kids and get two full days of their time. The kids have stated they do not want to stay an extra night because they are already with him all day during the week. Their dad keeps trying to chip away at the time we share. I feel constant pressure from him in emails and uncomfortable with the comments he makes.

A: You’re best advised to keep a careful paper-trail with the Father. Explain your reasons for declining his request – and that it’s not intended to necessarily deprive him of time; instead it’s to ensure you both have meaningful time with the kids. Schedule a consult with a Bronx Family Law attorney for a full assessment.