My daughter will be turning 13 next month. Can my boyfriend adopt her? He has been taking care of her and acting as a father figure for the past year.

Q: Her father is not in her life she meet him when she was 6yrs he was incarcerated 1 time for 15yrs then 7 yrs I tried to have him in her life but he always choose other women over his child. She doesn’t want nothing to do with him for the past couple of yrs every time we gave him a chance he blow it. He does child support when he feels like it only 30 a month, my daughters doesn’t want to be around him at all. When it comes to taking care of her he told her he came first financially one time told me if I had intercourse with him he will do more for her. She wants my boyfriend to adopt her because he is there for her financially, mentally & physically he is everything my daughter wishes her real father would be. He always wanted me to take him back in order to do what a father should do & I said no… She will be 13 I asked her again give your father another chance she said no he messed me up mentally. To my understanding he doesn’t work & lives in someone else house he is not stable. He only got my daughter 2 pairs of sneakers in 7yrs because the other 6 he was in jail. I have done everything for my daughter since she was born with no help of him or his family.

A: You would appear to be a good candidate for an adoption case. For your boyfriend to adopt, you would need to potentially proceed within the adoption case to terminate the Father’s rights by virtue of legal abandonment (defined as failing to have substantial contact for more than 6 months). You’re best advised to schedule a consult with a Bronx Adoption Attorney for a full assessment.