How To Compromise And Avoid Conflict During A Divorce

In this article, you can discover…

• How to professionally resolve conflicts in a divorce case.
• How to handle splitting finances, property, and more.
• Meaningful ways to keep things respectful, civil, and mutually helpful along the way.

How Can I Compromise During Conflict In My Divorce?

Mediation is a common way for couples to compromise with one another during a complicated divorce. 50% of the time, the mediation process is successful and helps both parties move through the proceedings with less tension. You could search for a divorce mediator online but, in New York State, most people are referred to a mediator by their attorney.

Mediators typically meet with you and your spouse for one to three sessions to attempt to resolve your divorce or family law issue. Using a mediator can save you time and money over each party hiring their own lawyer, but it’s best to choose mediation only if you’re confident that your spouse will negotiate in good faith and work with you.

It’s also important for both you and your spouse to understand that compromise and give-and-take will be necessary on both sides. The list of things that you will likely need to compromise on can include:

• Property and asset distribution
• Debt distribution
• Child support
• Alimony
• Custody and visitation rights
• And more…

Attorney David Bliven has been serving clients in New York just like you for over 20 years. He’s helped hundreds of people navigate the complexities of family law, compromise in difficult divorce proceedings, and move forward in life financially and emotionally.

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But this doesn’t mean that each and every issue needs to be handled separately during mediation. For example, it may happen that you or your spouse let go of hard stances in your parenting time agreement in exchange for paying less in child support.

This process could also take the form of acknowledging that you earn enough to take care of yourself and then some and letting go of alimony rights. This sacrifice can then help you leverage negotiations in your benefit elsewhere and make the process less tense and fairer for both sides.

You can also find ways to compromise on property and asset distribution. You may find yourself wanting to keep a house, while the other party would like to sell. Compromise in this situation may mean that the sale of the house is delayed until a child turns 18, or that your spouse receives a little bit more in alimony payment as the home sale is delayed. Alternatively, you could agree to pay all of the remaining mortgage, allowing you to keep the home while freeing the other party from that debt.

Should a house be sold, you may also want to compromise on the distribution of that amount, depending on what improvements were made, who paid most of the mortgage, who has custody of a child, and other factors. These compromises and negotiations could also include increased visitation rights, greater or lesser alimony pay, or changes to custody agreements.

As you begin the journey of working to resolve roadblocks with the other party, it’s important that you realistically consider what their litigation position would be and what they would be willing to settle for. Understand what their position and offers are from the beginning and be willing to work from that point. This can help both you and your spouse move forward with less conflict and come to arrangements both faster and more efficiently.

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